A Cleansing Ritual For Manifesting Your Dreams

This is an excerpt from our “Everyday Magick” Workbook. You can shop the full collection including a physical copy or digital download of the workbook here. A lot of love and energy went into making this collection so please support where you can! You can also follow us on IG @TRILUNA_wellness and stay in touch for future supper clubs, retreats, and updates to the collection!

One of our mentors, in the long-ago world of pre-pandemic, said during an herbalism workshop, “the knowledge keepers are being called.” And it moved us. It got inside of us and moved things around, shifted our understanding of the world around us, and our place in that world. What she meant was that much of the old knowledge (specifically of herbalism in this case, but also of magic, community, and kindness) has been lost. And now the knowledge keepers, the light seekers, and magic makers are being called to attention. We’re being asked to pick up the mantel and carry this knowledge into the future. “But what does this have to do with manifestation?” You might ask. The answer: everything.

What it means is that we have the ability to create new rituals, new magic, and also to rediscover what’s been lost, and uncover what has been buried. There is a lot of negative energy moving around in the world right now. And it’s heavy. It sticks to your bones and pulls you down. We believe that negative energy isn’t necessarily bad. The philosophies of our company are anti-diet culture and anti-racist. This ritual isn’t designed to pacify the energies that motivate you to create change or to ignore the shadow side of your work. It’s designed to help you create space. It is designed to help you clear away what isn’t serving you so you can focus on what’s ahead and work towards creating (i.e. manifesting) a life you love.

There are many ways to perform rituals. The form you chose to take is entirely up to you. This is one of our favorites. Put your own spin on it. Make room for growth.

WHAT YOU’LL NEED: (Don’t have it? Shop the rituals collection here.)

Crystal

Candle

Pen

Paper

Incense

HOW TO DO IT:

1. Before you begin, write down on a piece of paper what dreams or goals you have for your space. What do you want to bring or invite into it?

2. Light your candle, and from that your incense, and trace the lines of your room moving up and down the lines of the walls and up and over each of the doorways. Trace every corner of the room as if you are creating an invisible seal.

3. Put your incense down in something like an ashtray, on the side of your candle, in an incense burner (*note: please do not burn your house doing this, we don’t need THAT MUCH clearing).

4. Close your eyes or stare into the flame of the candle and try to slow the mind. Take three deep breaths, breathing into the belly, taking in as much air as you can, and releasing it. Imagine bringing in all that you desire for your space, filling it until it pushes out what you no longer desire. Imagine it as a cloud of smoke rising out from inside your body and up into the air, filling the room with a calming, delicious smell and soothing energy.

5. Then take your piece of paper and reread it. Read it three or four times. Take a few deep breaths and spend a few minutes visualizing what your life will look like once what’s on that paper comes to life. When you’re done put it somewhere where you will see it often and repeat this ritual as often as you’d like.

CONGRATS you did it! And now you know how you can be a knowledge keeper, light seeker, magic maker yourself. We don’t claim that rituals like this will solve your problems. But it will give you some perspective and some space. It will help you see the negative impact that energy has had in and on your body and it will give you permission to process it.

A note: It’s so very important when you’re doing a ritual or using sacred plants to pay homage to the culture it came from. Please don’t use wildcrafted white sage. Be aware of how your palo santo is harvested. If you already have it, use it, but show gratitude for the tree or plant it came from and the Indigenous peoples that created that ritual for you.

Wellness Isn't What We Think It Is

CW: disordered eating and weight loss

My love of cooking started young. The first thing I ever remember creating was a jammy, fruit enchilada dish with rice...not my best work but my parents were gracious enough to pretend to like it. My connection to creativity has always been cooking. But in middle school, I saw the beginnings of an eating disorder that would consume me for the next decade. My relationship with food soured, and there’s little need to cook when you’re not eating, so I stopped cooking for a long time. 

Eventually, I realized not eating was going to get me caught and I would have to stop engaging in those behaviors, which I was not ready to do, and so I found “wellness.” Or the cult of wellness as I now call it. I was able to hide my disorders by cloaking them in socially acceptable behaviors like diets, cleanses, and an obsessive emphasis on fitness and running. Unsurprisingly, moving from not eating to wellness didn’t solve any of my problems. I still had body dysmorphia. My anxiety was consuming me from the inside out. Stress was taking a heavy toll on my life. 

But during this time I got so many compliments. “You look amazing.” “Have you lost weight??” “Tell me your secrets!” “You must practice such restraint! I could never do that.” 

I was getting compliments on my eating disorder. Because that’s what we think wellness is, don’t we? Thinness? Being physically fit? 

It’s not. You can be thin and unwell. You can be fat and well. You can claim to “eat clean” (not a thing) and be mentally unwell. You can be fit and struggling with body dysmorphia.

When wellness focuses on physical appearance it fails us. It makes assumptions and judgments that are often false. It’s reductionist. It loses the context of community, it disregards the impact of racism and bigotry on our physical health, it forgets that wellness isn’t a rich (thin, cis, white) woman’s game. 

I found my way back to my body through cooking. And therapy. I slowly realized that the walls of wellness I had built around me were actually prejudiced, insidious things built to make me feel safer because society told me that if I was thin I was good. I was better. I was best. 

Eventualy I started eating bread again. And then I started baking it. And then I made pastries. And hand pies. And slowly. Over many years I peeled away the layers of diet culture. I continue to do so now.

When we created our Nourishment Beyond Food workshop it was to help others also get back to a connection with their food—to see food as nourishment but also a way to build community, to connect with the earth, to celebrate culture. It was also to get one to consider other areas of nourishment in their lives. As we often say “all the kale in the world won’t help if you’re not dealing with your stress, or if you lack joy, or if you’re ignoring your mental health.” 

I challenge you this week to rethink what you think you know about wellness. Investigate your assumptions. Dig into the history of BMI. Do research on how the medical industry continues to fail BIPOC men and women every day. Research how fatphobia affects the mental and physical wellness of those living in stigmatized bodies. I challenge you to get back in the kitchen as a celebration of community and togetherness. 

-Elizabeth Moore

What Does It Mean To Call Someone In?

When we were doing the “Wellness Includes Me” training with Jess Thompson Wellness she talked often about “calling IN” before “calling OUT.” Said simply, it’s inviting them to have a conversation before exposing them to the world.

We have done this often in our work. We did it with our “Dear Karen” letter after we were asked not to host our Supper Club at a specific boutique hotel––because it was about diversity, equity, and inclusion. We did it after the super bowl when a local Nashville wellness studio posted a bunch of pro-Tom Brady content.

Most of the time we don’t get a response. We didn’t in the case of this wellness studio or the Karen letter. But this is the work we need to be doing as a community in order to create change.

We, (and here we are speaking to the white people in the room, self-included) cause more harm when we ignore the racist or ignorant behavior of our neighbors, friends, and family. We actively participate in the system of racism when we stay silent––in fact, the term is literally called "white silence." It is a violent act.

When doing this work we often hear that people are scared to call others out publically, and while we wish that wasn't the case, we understand it early on in your journey. The solution? Call people in. Invite them to have a conversation. You can use prompts like, "Hey did you know XYZ," or "Hello, I would love to have a conversation with you about how this might be harmful," or even "Would you be willing to have a conversation with me about this?"

We know that this might be difficult but nothing could be more important. For change to happen we must create it through conversation, action, and intention (and policy).

Actions and takeaways:

• Are there people or businesses in your life that you could invite to the table by calling them in? Identify a couple and try reaching out.

• If you call in and you don’t get a response then you can put some public pressure on with a call OUT.

• This is not to tone police––especially BIPOC reading this. Honestly, if you want to start by calling someone out we support you 100%.

What other ideas do you have for calling people in? Have you done this before? Let us know below!

Eating On Camera: A Journey With Elizabeth Moore

Content Warning: Eating Disorder Discussion

When our new Marketing Coordinator joined our team last week we asked her to try and get some b-roll of a cooking class we had for a corporate client. We had no idea when we asked her to do that that she would capture this incredible moment for me and for our team.

I found my way to wellness as a way to hide my eating disorder. When my eating disorder was most active I would skip meals for days, work out, and sometimes purge. Eventually, that behavior was found out and I was sent to therapy. I went to Christian family therapy and they were not equipped to handle my ED––which is a conversation we all need to be having. One of the ways my ED presented as a soul-crushing fear of eating in front of people. I was terrified they would see me eating and make judgments about me, and my body, and my lack of self-control. I literally would cut the inside of my sandwiches out before school, throw it away, then take the crust and put it on the table at lunch so people would think I had eaten and they would leave me alone. My first therapy experience in therapy was group therapy. They took us out to dinner. I still remember everything about it. It was humiliating.

I realized I would have to take charge of my own “healing” so I could trick my parents into not sending me back to therapy (note: I do not recommend this). So. I found wellness. No one judged me if I was eating carrots and lettuce and drinking smoothies all day. It made it easy for me to hide in plain sight. My relationship with food was still massively disordered, it was just massively disordered in a socially acceptable way.

My journey from not eating, to maniacally controlling what I eat, to intuitive eating, and finally to this place now that I don't have a name for has been long (Kate Moore recently posted about empowered eating which she learned from Jess Walker and that sounds right to me as well). I eventually got a better therapist. I started to understand my thin / straight-bodied privilege and work to advocate for a world that cares more about who we are and less about what we weigh. I found my way out of the "wellderness”––as much as one can in a society that moralizes wellness and equates it with thinness at literally every turn. 

And now we're here. At this video. In my lifetime I have gone from pulling the guts out of my sandwich before lunch to eating on camera. Thank you to my team and to  Kirbee of Kinimi Kitchen  for celebrating this win and this realization with me. Thank you to Ashley for being as excited about this as I am. You are so special. I love you all. - Elizabeth